Everyone remembers cinema’s great love affairs. from When Harry Met Sally to CasablancaHollywood has always adored stories of two people finding their soulmate in the least likely of circumstances.
But things don’t always work out that way.
Some films opt to delve into the darker side of romance – or love affairs that quickly go sour and spiral into destruction.
Often, this is deliberate. Films such as Nicolas Roeg’s Bad Timing or Derek Cianfrance’s Blue Valentine steer viewers through the choppy waters of a toxic relationship. All you can do is watch through your fingers in horror as something once sacred goes painfully wrong.
Sometimes, however, the toxicity is entire accidental – a horrific mismatch of people that’s framed as a heartwarming love story (something that’s particularly prevalent in older films like Grease or The Breakfast Clubin which troubling relationships are scrutinized more harshly decades after release).
Lord, then, is The Independent‘s ranking of the 20 most toxic relationships ever seen in film….
20. Love Actually
It’s almost hard to pick the most toxic relationship from the smorgasbord of interconnecting romances in Love Actually. For my money, it’s probably the queasy relationship between Hugh Grant’s prime minister and junior staffer Martine McCutcheon. But there’s a wealth of choice here otherwise.
19. Fatal Attraction
The erotic thriller has been a fertile basis for exploring toxic relationships on screen, and Fatal Attraction is certainly no exception. While Glenn Close’s Alex Forrest – who becomes obsessed with Dan Gallagher (Michael Douglas) after a short sexual dalliance – may feed into some pretty problematic stereotypes (ahem, bunny boiler), the film still endures as a gripping portrayal of a truly troubling relationship.
18. Happy Together
Wong Kar Wai, perhaps cinema’s foremost trafficker of unfulfilled romantic yearning, depicted a chaotic love affair between two Hong Kong men (Leslie Cheung and Tony Leung) in Argentina, in this modern queer classic. Happy Together is by turns funny and tragic, an idiosyncratic take on a strange and destructive relationship.
I don’t think I’d be sticking my head too far above the parapet of age-gap discourse to suggest there’s something iffy about a 100-year-old vampire dating a teenage schoolgirl. the Twilight films are defiantly sentimental about Bella (Kristen Stewart) and Edward’s (Robert Pattinson) romance, but there’s no shaking the fact that theirs is a deeply toxic one.
16. Cold War
Another film that could have easily been titled “Toxic Relationship: The Movie”, 2018 Polish drama Cold War tracks the torrid romance between a talented young singer (Joanna Kulig) and a musical director (Tomasz Kot). There are moments of beauty and poignance in there, but mostly just the uneasy feeling of watching two people tailspin in mutually unhappy passion.
15. Basic Instinct
It doesn’t take a detective to suss that there’s something awry in the warped romance between Michael Douglas’s grizzled police investigator Nick Curran and Sharon Stone’s alluring novelist Catherine Tramell – who happens to be the prime suspect in Nick’s latest murder case. Sex and violence intertwine in Paul Verhoevan’s seminal erotic thriller.
14. Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down!
Pedro Almodóvar’s 1990 romance is the story of a courtship so garishly problematic that you kind of have to laugh. Antonio Banderas plays Ricky, a recently released psychiatric patient who kidnaps and imprisons Marina, a porn star (Victoria Abril). Eventually – and inevitably – she falls in love with her dysfunctional captor. A sick, provocative delight to watch.
13. She’s All That
The 1999 teen rom com She’s All That was a fast hit when it first came out, but the years have not been kind to its central relationship. Freddie Prinze Jr plays high-school jock Zack Siler, while Rachael Leigh Cook is Laney Boggs, the gauche loner who, against the odds, wins his affections – but only after physically reinventing herself with a drastic makeover.
12. How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
One of the many, many problematic romcoms from the Nineties-Noughties rom-com genre boom, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days centers on a pretty shameful relationship between Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey. With both parties manipulating and deceiving the other throughout, the film also promotes a number of lazy gendered cliches about dating.
11. Marriage Story
There are moments of real gut-wrenching vitriol between feuding spouses Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson in Noah Baumbach’s Oscar-winning 2019 drama. Even though the scene has been memed into oblivion, there’s no denying the visceral unpleasantness to watching Adam Driver spit the words, “Everyday I wake up and I hope you’re dead,” at the mother of his child.
10. The Breakfast Club
Much of John Hughes’s body of work could probably feature on this list; from Weird Science to Sixteen Candles, his teen comedies are peppered with inappropriate, toxic or downright reprehensible romances. But for many, it’s The Breakfast Club that irks the most, specifically the getting-together of the bierish, sexually harrassive John Bender (Judd Nelson) and Claire Standish (Molly Ringwald). Ringwald later admitted as much, reevaluating the film’s troubling romance in an essay for the New Yorker.
9. Blue Valentine
Derek Cianfrance’s 2010 drama tracked the highs and lows of a turbulent relationship between a nurse (Michelle Williams) and a volatile blue-collar worker (Ryan Gosling). intimate and heartbreaking, Blue Valentine presents its destructive central relationship with a near-unparalleled candour; the breakdown stings all the more because the courtship is so winningly heartfelt.
8. You’ve Got Mail
Whether or not you subscribe to the idea that opposites attract, there’s more at play than just warring sensibilities in Nora Ephron’s 1998 romcom You’ve Got Mail. Tom Hanks’s character, Joe Fox, is a pure, corporatized asshole; Megan Ryan plays his unwitting pen pal, a quietly melancholy bookshop idealist. Adapted from the 1930s classic The Shop Around the CornerEphron makes the whole thing nastier and more jaded, and the central relationship here is littered with red flags.
7. Beauty and the Beast
You’d think classic children’s films would be careful not to instill dangerous ideas about romance to young viewers, but all too often, that’s not the case. Beauty and the Beast is one of the worst offenders, depicting a hugely problematic romance between the young Belle and her captor, the Beast. It’s Stockholm syndrome framed as true love: a story that gets worse the more you unpack it.
Chris Pratt makes for an ethically dubious hero in this 2016 sci-fi romance. After being woken prematurely from hypersleep aboard a decades-long space flight, he decides to wake up Jennifer Lawrence to keep him company – dooming her to a life of isolated co-dependency aboard an empty space vessel. It’s ultimately framed as a touching romance, but make no mistake: this is rotten to its core.
There’s much that’s aged poorly about Grease, from the throwaway date rape joke to the bizarre over-aged casting. But the central romance – between dewy-eyed Sandy (Olivia Newton-John) and leather-jacketed Danny (John Travolta) – is probably the worst of the lot. The film ends with a pretty terrible message, as Sandy reinvents her whole personhood just to please her beau.
4. Bad Timing
It might seem like an understatement to describe Art Garfunkel and Theresa Russell’s romance in Nic Roeg’s 1980 drama as a “toxic relationship” – the film ends with one of the most horror-inducing scenes of sexual violence ever comitted to screen. But for most of its runtime, Bad Timing is a fascinating portrait of a doomed, turbulent love affair.
3. Gone Girl
While David Fincher’s 2014 thriller keeps you guessing throughout much of its runtime, one thing becomes clear pretty early on – Nick (Ben Affleck) and Amy’s (Rosamund Pike) relationship was not remotely a healthy one. Though few could predict the extreme, and murderous, depths to which Amy ended up sinking, the Dunnes’ marriage is a spectacle of car-crash suburban toxicity from start to finish.
Sure, there are lots of great (and not-so-great) films about toxic romances. But how many inspired their own now-ubiquitous – and dictionary-certified – piece of socio-romantic jargon? Charles Boyer plays a husband who deviously manipulates his wife (Ingrid Bergman) into thinking she is going crazy. If only they had a word for it back then…
1. Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?
The toxic relationship movie to end all toxic relationship movies, Mike Nichols’s 1966 adaptation of Edward Albee’s acerbic play is a tour-de-force of marital dysfunction. Elizabeth Taylor and James Burton – then really married at the time – play a husband and wife whose marriage has collapsed into a state of poisonous passive-aggression. George Segal and Sandy Dennis, meanwhile, play a young couple trapped in the dinner party from hell.